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My mother is caring for my father, who has Alzheimer’s Disease. She is so depressed and I think she’s in over her head at this point. What can I do to convince her to allow us to place Dad in someone else’s care?
Focus first on your mother's needs? Caring for someone with dementia can be a 24-hour, 7 day a week job. If your mother is not getting enough sleep, she will be incapable of caring for your father. If, on the other hand, you were to arrange for some respite (short-term) care for your father in a memory care community or if you were to arrange for your dad to have a hired caregiver companion or to visit an adult day center for part of the day, your mother could have time to relax and not feel the pressure of caregiving. This may be enough rest for her to continue to care for your father.
You should talk to your mother about the family's willingness to look at alternative options. Be sure to tell your mother that care doesn't have to mean moving elsewhere or living separately; care can be arranged to come to their home. This type of scenario will allow you mother to continue to be your father's spouse rather than his caregiver.
Your mother may appreciate attending a support group through the Alzheimer's Association. 206-363-5500 or 800-848-7097 http://www.alzwa.org The Alzheimer's Association also offers a 24-hour, 7-day a week Helpline, which can be reached by calling the same numbers listed above.
Last update: 2007-05-08 01:15
Author: Tech Support
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